She seems like a nice girl, but I would be worried if I were she. 20, and Crystal gave birth to their first son. It hurts to see them parade their love on social media. My world came crashing down all over again: I had tried to understand that he didnвЂ™t want to be monogamous, but then he went and found a different woman whom he was ready to be monogamous with? Then, in 2014, when Ne-Yo released his music video for вЂњMoney CanвЂ™t Buy,вЂќ I found out that he was dating the videoвЂ™s vixen, Crystal Renay, known for posting racy photos on Instagram. It wasnвЂ™t long until VH1 producers called and asked me to join the reality show вЂњAtlanta Exes,вЂќ which followed me along with other ex-wives of Hollywood stars, such as Tameka, UsherвЂ™s ex. The thought of him and my kids not living under the same roof was devastating.ДЄ week after our split, Ne-Yo posted the news on Instagram. I was so hurt and distraught my parents have been together for 44 years, and I always assumed our relationship would last for the rest of our lives. A week later, we had a deep conversation face to face. вЂњI donвЂ™t want to be monogamous anymore,вЂќ he told me - in other words, he wanted to break up. I trusted him so much that it never even crossed my mind that he hadnвЂ™t gone through with it.Д«ut then, in June 2013 - just two months before our August wedding - Ne-Yo called. I was so busy caring for two young children, I just assumed Ne-Yo had followed through and had gotten the vasectomy. Immediately after, the doctor performed the sterilization procedure. But he was there for MasonвЂ™s birth, and gave me a high-five in the delivery room. I would travel to see him sometimes, but as the pregnancy progressed I could no longer fly. I told him, вЂњOur family should be in LA with you,вЂќ but he was adamant that his family grow up in Atlanta. Our home base was in Atlanta, but he spent most of his time working in Los Angeles. In 2011, I found out I was pregnant with Mason. He incorporated the lyrics from his song вЂњMake Me BetterвЂќ and pulled out a 10-carat diamond ring. He pulled my hand, dropped down to one knee, and I immediately started crying. We were in a suite, and he told everybody to be quiet.

In 2010, during a weekend in the Dominican Republic for FabolousвЂ™ birthday, Ne-Yo asked me to marry him. It wasnвЂ™t a complete surprise, as we werenвЂ™t using protection, and we knew instantly that this child was a gift from God.ДЄfter starting a family, I fell more in love than ever. The next year, I found out I was pregnant. He had such a good heart, and thatвЂ™s what attracted me to him. He asked me out several times before I said yes - and then I fell for him fast. We first met in 2009 at a Jamie Foxx concert in Louisiana. Ne-Yo also agreed to undergo a vasectomy to show our mutual commitment to the relationship. We had a daughter, Madilyn, in 2010, and two children seemed like more than enough for the both of us. Sterilization was something Ne-Yo and I discussed thoroughly in the months leading up to the babyвЂ™s delivery. The doctor must have asked us eight times if this was what we wanted. My fiancГ©, Shaffer Chimere Smith (better known as R&B artist Ne-Yo), was right by my side, holding my hand the entire time. So before the doctors finished up in the delivery room, I told them: вЂњI want you to burn my fallopian tubes.вЂќ 9, 2011, I delivered a healthy baby boy, my second child, Mason, and I finally felt my family was complete. Here, the 35-year-old Shreveport, La., native and author of вЂњ Bigger Than MeвЂќ (Evan Grace Publishing, out now) tells The PostвЂ™s Tashara Jones about the biggest regret of her life and how sheвЂ™s moving on. But two months before their wedding, he called it off and later started a new family with a new love - an option that Shaw now may never have. In 2011, Monyetta Shaw underwent a sterilization procedure, having decided with her then-fiancГ© - Grammy-winning artist Ne-Yo - that their two children were enough. Steve Granitz/WireImage Monyetta Shaw and her ex-fiancГ©, Ne-Yo, decided she should have her tubes tied. Singer Ne-Yo married model Crystal Renay in February of this year.

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